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The Tipping Point: How Little Things Can Make a Big Difference – By Malcolm Gladwell

“The best way to understand the dramatic transformation of unknown books into bestsellers, or the rise of teenage smoking, or the phenomena of word of mouth or any number of the other mysterious changes that mark everyday life,” writes Malcolm Gladwell, “is to think of them as epidemics. Ideas and products and messages and behaviors spread just like viruses do.” Although anyone familiar with the theory of memetics will recognize this concept, Gladwell’s “The Tipping Point” has quite a few interesting twists on the subject.

For example, Paul Revere was able to galvanize the forces of resistance so effectively in part because he was what Gladwell calls a “Connector”: he knew just about everybody, particularly the revolutionary leaders in each of the towns that he rode through. But Revere “wasn’t just the man with the biggest Rolodex in colonial Boston”; he was also a “Maven” who gathered extensive information about the British. He knew what was going on, and he knew exactly whom to tell. The phenomenon continues to this day–think of how often you’ve received information in an e-mail message that had been forwarded at least half a dozen times before reaching you.

Gladwell develops these and other concepts (such as the “stickiness” of ideas or the effect of population size on information dispersal) through simple, clear explanations and entertainingly illustrative anecdotes, such as comparing the pedagogical methods of Sesame Street and Blue’s Clues, or explaining why it would be even easier to play Six Degrees of Kevin Bacon with the actor Rod Steiger. Although some readers may find the transitional passages between chapters hold their hands a little too tightly, and Gladwell’s closing invocation of the possibilities of social engineering sketchy, even chilling, “The Tipping Point” is one of the most effective books on science for a general audience in ages. It seems inevitable that “tipping point,” like “future shock” or “chaos theory,” will soon become one of those ideas that everybody knows–or at least knows by name.
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There’s no rule that says you have to be a superhero. So much has been written about amazing individuals that achieve the impossible -– they juggle fulltime jobs, study, raise children, run a household, coach the national cricket team and write a novel in their spare time. Anyone you read about that does all these things is a rare individual. And they probably forgot to tell you about the six months they spent recovering from all the exertion…

Small amounts of stress can be motivating, however high levels of stress can have the opposite effect. Common symptoms of excess stress include fatigue, feeling overwhelmed, irritability and increased susceptibility to illness.

Are you always rushing to catch up? Do you have an enormous “To Do’ list that seems to grow each day? Poor time management is a common source of anxiety and stress.

If you have trouble getting things done, invest in a time management course to help you prioritise tasks, eliminate unnecessary activities and plan your day effectively. Here are some tips to get you started:

1. Be clear about what you are trying to achieve. Set personal, financial and career goals.

2. Take time at the beginning or end of each day to plan.

3. List everything you need to do and the date by which it needs to be completed.

4. Number each item in order of priority. Your highest priority items will be the ones that help you achieve your long-term goals and ambitions.

5. Delegate or lose tasks that do not help you achieve your goals and ambitions. Place a value on your time, and eliminate tasks that do not have a positive payback. For example, if you value your time at $25 an hour, consider hiring someone at $12 an hour to do your housework.

6. Do one thing at a time, and see the task through to completion before starting something else. Switching between tasks can be a huge time waster.

7. Attack the tough top priority jobs first. Most people have a tendency to do all the little tasks first so they can get them out of the way. It is more effective to start with the highest priority task. Ask yourself, “What one task if completed would have the greatest positive impact on achieving my goals?” Try completing this task first.

8. Handle incoming mail once (and this includes email). Don’t keep putting it aside — make a decision and act on it immediately.

9. Set time aside each day to work or study without interruption — close the door, turn on your voice mail — do whatever it takes to make sure you can work in peace and quiet.

10. Don’t take on more than you can handle. If you can’t fit it in, say no.

11. Plan your personal time, such as playing tennis or catching up with friends. People often think that leisure activities need to be spontaneous but this isn’t true, it can be just as much fun to plan time out.

12. Plan your errands, client calls and other travel to ensure you make the best use of your time.

Find time each week to do something to nurture your soul — spend time with your children, dance, write in a journal or enjoy some guilt-free leisure. Scheduling time for relaxation will keep you motivated.

If you don’t already have a dairy, put this on your shopping list today. You can use it to record your goals, appointments and also to remind you to take part in regular exercise, hobbies, family and romantic time and last but not least — fun!

About the Author: TALIA MANA is a business and personal coach, an inspirational speaker and author. Talia can be contacted through her website: taliamana.com.

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Two important keys that have helped me form better relationships with others and myself are forgiveness and non-judgment. They are very similar. Forgiveness is an attitude that is important to cultivate when you feel that you have been wronged. Being non-judgmental is an ongoing process. When you are non-judgmental and forgiving, you attain a higher consciousness and inner peace.

Most people feel forgiveness means pardoning another person for an error or indiscretion. That view comes from the small ego. It implies you are above someone else, that you are the judge. True forgiveness means you reach a point in consciousness that you realize no one is to blame for anything; no one is wrong. Whatever happens in a relationship is perfect for what you need as Soul to grow. In the deeper understanding of life, there is no one to forgive; whatever happens in your life is perfect.

Forgiveness means that eventually, if you are linked with your higher self and Spirit, you will consciously realize whatever transpired was perfect for your growth. You then can release all attachments to how you wanted a situation to turn out and all negative energy regarding that event or person. Then true impartial love can flow through you and from you.

Start and forgive yourself and practice accepting yourself instead of negatively judging yourself. The more you do this, the more it spills out to your relationships. Then they become more loving or peaceful. Which in turn makes your life more loving and peaceful!  Change your beliefs and change your life!

Marian Massie
Hypnotherapist/Success Coach

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Willpower is Way Overrated! The REAL Science-Based Secrets for Persistence and Eliminating Procrastination – By Doug Bench

If I were to ask you “what was the most important characteristic for overcoming procrastination, for persistence, and long-term achievement,” what would you say? Willpower? That would not be an unusual answer, but it would be wrong.

Willpower is vastly overrated as the leading trait used by success-minded achievers. If we keep this discussion on a scientific level, willpower cannot be responsible for more than one-sixth of anyone’s success.

The real secret to success is your imagination and your ability to visualize success. This powerful trait is responsible for five-sixths of every great achievement.

Suppose that you have set a goal to lose 10 pounds. You are absolutely determined to be 10 pounds lighter by next month! You are using your willpower to prove that you are stronger and more powerful than those extra cookies and calories.

So you say to yourself, “I will not overeat… I will not overeat… You repeat this to yourself over and over again, using your willpower. But all the time you are consciously saying this, your imagination is visualizing how great those cookies smell, and telling you how great those cookies taste. Sooner or later you will grab those cookies or extra calories and chug them down. Why?

Whenever you have a conflict between willpower and your imagination, whenever they are pulling in opposite directions, your imagination will ALWAYS win!

But if your willpower and imagination are working together, pulling toward the SAME goal, this will create an all-powerful force that is impossible to overcome, and success is always the automatic, inevitable result.

Now this sounds great, but how does this work scientifically? Most sources of self-help tell you “what” you should do. But very few tell you “how” things work. KNOWLEDGE is the real key to success.

Revolutionary brain-science discoveries have been made in the last few years. In that research lays the proof of the above theory and how you can put this to use in your life to overcome procrastination, and reach transcendent levels of success.

While using a PET scanner to verify that indeed most people solve math problems in the left side of the brain, neuroscientists made a startling discovery.

[A PET scanner is used to take a scan-image of the brain. The subject is injected with a very small amount of radioactive isotopes, then placed in the scanner, in which an electromagnetic device passes a very thin electromagnetic field through their brain. The part of the brain that is "thinking" at that time will have excess amounts of blood-flow, which, due to the radiation, shows up on the PET scan.]

In the math function tests, each of the subject’s brain scan lit up in a similar area of their left-brain.

But something else occurred that the scientists had not predicted. The brain scan also lit up in 5 other areas of the brain! This was a revolutionary discovery. It verified that your brain is constantly “thinking” on six or more levels at once.

In additional testing, subjects were given a math problem to solve and a sedative that was slowly increased, until they fell asleep.

What happened? The light on the scan image representing the math thinking, WENT OUT! But the other five areas of the brain scan that were lit, stayed lit.

CONCLUSION? You are constantly thinking on 6 levels at once, but only at the conscious level, are you aware of your thoughts and ideas.

The other five areas are known as your nonconscious brain or what used to be called the subconscious brain by non-neuroscientists.

When the scan-light went out for the conscious thinking and math problem-solving, as each subject fell asleep, all of the other areas stayed lit.

This means that you are always thinking at your nonconscious levels. No matter that you may be consciously asleep.

Your imagination and powers of visualization reside in your nonconscious brain. Your willpower resides in the conscious brain.

Your conscious brain represents one-sixth of your brain’s thinking power. Your nonconscious brain represents five-sixths of your brain’s thinking power.

Which part of your brain is most important to control? Which is more powerful: a 500 pound Gorilla or a 100 pound weakling who gets sand kicked in his face? Do the math!

Your nonconscious brain has five times the power of your conscious brain.

Therefore anytime you have a conflict between your willpower, which functions in your conscious brain (1/6), and your imagination, which functions in your nonconscious brain (5/6), who is ALWAYS going to win?

Yep! Your visualization and imagination of the taste of those cookies-every time!

So what can you do to fix this?

Well there is another scientific principle involved here.

Your mind sees only in pictures. If I were to ask you to close your eyes and remember what you did first thing after you got up this morning, you would see this in pictures. You would not see this written on a page of notebook paper in your brain!

Because you are aware of what you think consciously, your conscious brain can see things and think things through and filter out negative pictures and give thoughts (mind-pictures) true meaning or perception.

You CANNOT filter out the negatives from your nonconscious thoughts because you’re not even aware of what that thinking (picture) is!

So when you say to yourself, “I will not overeat!” Your conscious brain (1/6) can give this true meaning, but your nonconscious brain (5/6) sees a picture of, “Overeat!” “Overeat”!

And boy does your nonconscious listen to you!! It is not at all uncommon for people who want to lose weight to actually gain weight!

Have you ever said to your children, “Whatever you do, don’t spill the milk!”?

Five/Sixth of their brain, sees a perfect picture of what?

That’s right! “Spill the milk!”

Kids listened well at my house. They always spilled the milk.

How do you solve this problem?

Now that you know the scientific basis, it’s easy. You’ve got to get your nonconscious brain, 5/6 of your brain-power, in line with your conscious, willpower brain, 1/6 of your brain-power.

You must use your imagination to dream and visualize all of the positive benefits you can gain by losing ten pounds and bombard your nonconscious brain with these pictures so that your entire brain is working toward the same end.

Instead of saying “I will not overeat!” say, “I am fit, and thin, because I eat healthy foods!” See yourself doing so as you say this!

Also, start seeing yourself doing the things you will be able to do after you lose weight.

Start visualizing every single benefit of that goal.

Then your entire brain is working in the same direction. And no matter what your goal is, weight-loss or other great goals, your success will be automatically guaranteed. You won’t need willpower anymore.

After about thirty days of imagining and visualizing your success, your brain will have created enough new neurode connection-patterns, so that it will automatically take the steps necessary to reach your goals.

You won’t have to do it; your brain will do it for you!

Willpower is overrated! Oh, it’s still important. You need to use it to make the initial decision to change.

But once that decision to change is made with willpower, use your imagination in your nonconscious brain to make that willpower decision stick, permanently!

Procrastination will disappear, persistence and long term success and achievement will take its place. Not a thing you can do to stop it.

Your brain will be programmed for Success. Automatically! Trust Your Greatest Achievements to Neuroscience!

About the Author: Doug is a noted educational and motivational dramatist, humorist, author, trainer and speaker.

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Here are some ways to deepen your connection with the immense powers of love, forgiveness and wisdom. At first glance, they might seem like simple truisms; yet they are powerful when you use them, and they may lead to revelations:
* Say “Thank you; I love you” over and over throughout the day and night.
* Find the place of love within yourself, and by focusing on it, you magnify and expand it.
* Extend that love to yourself for the great being that you are in your true nature.
* Extend love and forgiveness to someone who you perceive has been less than loving to you.
* Ask your Wise Mind what it would like to tell you about anything you’re experiencing.

With love to you,

Marilyn Gordon